I’m A Fraud! It’s Time To Come Clean!

That’s right! And I need to come clean! The life I want to live in requires authenticity. How can I thrive and grow if I’m not living my authentic self? How can inspire if what I put out is not based on my reality? I’m going to start with one confession today and save more for a later post. I feel a sense of guilt each time I post a filtered, photo shopped picture of myself. It’s hypocritical, really.

 Today is about stopping the comparisons and pulling back the curtain on body image and aging. On the outside I may appear to others as confident, in control and put together because that is the mask I’ve worn. Truth is I’ve been afraid all my life of other people’s judgement. Hopefully, I can squelch one of the fears of being discovered as a fake and maybe help at least one person reading this who may have compared the image they see in the mirror to mine.

Here’s my confession:

  • If you’ve compared your hair to mine, I’ve been colouring the gray out for years.
  • If you’ve compared your face to mine, I’ve had chemical peels, derma-rolling, micro-needling, fillers and botox.
  • If you’ve compared your body to mine, besides various, relentless diet programs and an eating disorder I’ve had an abdominoplasty & liposuction.

What you’ve seen is my highlight reel. An edited representation of me. We need to unite together as women and accept ourselves as is! We shame each other because we’re too big, too small or not aging gracefully based on ridiculous standards.

Young impressionable girls are watching. It’s a struggle enough to be a teen never mind one who thinks they need perfect hair, eyebrows or a perfect proportioned body and older women who are “too big” or “too small” or ‘too wrinkly”! Please, while your hiding behind your keyboards and smart phones spewing negativity and hatred about someone’s appearance look at your daughters, granddaughters, sisters, wives and girlfriends and think about whether what you’re saying is something you want them to read before pressing send!!

Let’s be real. Let’s be authentic. Let’s support each other and be kind, be positive and be enough because we are all beautiful and imperfectly perfect!! Authentic

 

 

5 thoughts on “I’m A Fraud! It’s Time To Come Clean!

  1. Well said sis! Society has put so much pressure on not only women but men too. We need to love who we are first before we can truly give love to another person. Like I said to you before our wrinkles show how we have lived our lives. They are our characteristics of who we are. Anyone who passes judgement on how other people look are the ones who have their own poor self confidence or low self esteem and it is their problem not ours. Yes we need to unite and be proud of all we have accomplished and love ourselves – regardless of what our body image is. The true person is in the spirit or soul, not the physical body. I love you for being transparent. I know it wasn’t easy for you! You are amazing!

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  2. I enjoy reading your blog. You don’t need to pretend to be any one other than yourself. Your a great person, great Mom. Let your true self shine through. If you enjoy doing a little something to fight aging and boost your confidence…more power to you. But it is not needed.

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