How to Re-gain Your Focus!

Ever have one of those days! I literally woke up in a “F*** it mood!” (Hence why it’s 9 a.m on a Sunday and I’m still in bed🤨) Waffles smothered in whip cream and strawberries with a side of bacon & a mimosa sounds a lot better than boiled eggs, plain oatmeal & plain yogurt no matter how I try to spruce it up with my blueberries!

But as I pull up my SkipTheDishes app I see the wallpaper pic of myself with my boys. It is a reminder of what’s at stake if I don’t get my health under control. So, I’m going to finish my tea, restart the kettle and get back to staying on track! Here are some other quick tips to help if you ever find yourself less than motivated to continue to make healthy choices!

1. Forgive yourself! Keep your expectations realistic. Life happens, you can’t be perfect 100% of the time. Staying healthy is a lifelong journey!

2. Focus on the reason why you want a healthy lifestyle. Think about your end goal. Visualize what that will look and feel like!

3. Go for a walk! Activity will help with managing your stress, fighting boredom and is a healthy distraction.

4. Variety! Try to pre-plan and mix up your meals to avoid the monotony of eating the same things. Balance and moderation are keys to staying on track.

5. Get Support! Sometimes making lifestyle change is challenging so it always helps to have that little extra lift or push to make things more enjoyable and successful. Find a partner to challenge & cheer each other on.

Happy Sunday Funday!

Enjoy today! 💕

Did someone mention drinks on the patio?

Speaking of summer and tomatoes one of the favourite drinks of Canadians is a classic Caesar(in a week it’s actually National Caesar day) What’s great about this is that an 8 ounce glass is a fun way to get two servings of vegetables in! Throw in a couple celery stocks for garnish and take care of a third! And it’s also socially acceptable to have this at any time of day! 😂

Stick to low sodium ingredients when possible. Vodka is also optional! But if you’re watching your waist line keep in mind the cons of alcohol when losing weight!

Please excuse me, after writing this I’m going to have to go enjoy this out of my deck now! Have a great afternoon/evening! 💕

-8 ounces of Clamato juice or low sodium V-8 juice (jar not can for best results)

-2 dashes of low- sodium Worcestershire sauce

-1 dash of Tabasco (or more depending how spicy you’d like)

-celery sticks

-celery salt- optional (I know I said low sodium but what’s a Caesar without this!)

-a lime (cut one half & the other half make 2 wedges)

-black pepper

Some recipes will say shake up all ingredients with ice in a cocktail shaker then pour but I actually prefer the ingredients layered.

-Rub the edge of a glass with a lime wedge and dip the rim in celery salt and set aside

-Fill your glass with ice, add Clamato or V8 juice, add squeezed juice of half a lime, then Worcestershire, then Tabasco, pepper it up to preferred taste. Garnish with remaining lime wedge and Add celery stocks

-Enjoy

Tip: get creative with different vegetable garnishes & olives(healthy fat)

What are some of your favourites??

How to Get back on track!

Did y’all enjoy your day weekend? Well, Happy Monday! 😊

Monday represents a new start so let’s jump right back in! Here are some tips to get back on track!

1. Preplan – Stock your fridge & cupboards with healthy options that’ll keep you on track throughout the week. If you have meals ready to go & healthy snacks on hand, you’re less likely to grab whats unhealthy.

2. Track what you eat- write down when & what goes in to your mouth. It’ll keep you accountable and help you identify habits. You can do this by keeping a little journal or using free apps that are available out there.

3. Water, Water, Water-add lemon & warm it for extra detox.

4. Eat Breakfast- It’ll kickstart your metabolism for the day and boost your energy levels.

5. Protein , healthy fats & high fibre foods will help with cravings and keep you full throughout the day!

What are some tips you might have to get back on track?

Let’s Get Take-out!

Happy Friday! For many, weekend’s tend to mean dining out or take out!

For the most part dining out is more about the people you’re with and the experience than the actual food.

(Pre/post lockdown of course)

Here are some tips to help with healthy choices.

1- Pre-plan! I find this the biggest help! Thanks to the internet you’re able to go online and check out menus prior to the day your plans are. Choose something you can build your choices for the rest of the days meals with.

2- Order sparkling water in a wine glass with lots of lemons & limes. Sometimes chatting with company, mindless drinking & eating happens so it definitely tricks your brain holding a wine glass instead of one of those boring regular water glasses.

3- Stick to protein & vegetables and 1 high calorie carbohydrate such as either the cocktail, bread, potato or dessert but not all four. And don’t be afraid to order a lean cut of steak with a side of vegetables. Sometimes those meals can have the lowest fat and calories on the menu.

4-Ask for a to go container at the time you place your order so when your meal arrives to the table you take half of it and immediately put it away to avoid that mindless eating.

5- Don’t forget to drink extra water that day and the next not just because it’ll keep you full but also to help with the extra sodium that tends to be in restaurant food.

6-Most importantly!! Give yourself a break & don’t stress about your meal. Enjoy each bite & each conversation! Life is strange these days so you never know when you’ll get a chance to savour these moments. Start fresh your next meal! 💕🍴🍛😋

Broken

So, this happened at 630 am. The perfect start to my day. It was the proverbial straw that broke the camels back. At that moment, I sit there on the floor, legs crossed amongst the mess feeling a lot like that broken bottle. The amount of red hot sauce that had spread to reach more corners of the kitchen floor then what possibly was left in the bottle and that shattered glass seemed to be a perfect symbol.

I had two choices. Number one, I could do nothing but sit there amongst the mess I made wallowing in the misery, focusing on how long it will take to clean up, how late the start of my day would be or how I might even cut myself. Of course, also, what could have been with all the uses of the hot sauce that will never happen now.

Or choice number two, take a deep breath, stand up, grab some paper towels & a mop. Stop wasting time and clean my mess up!! Start fresh and move on!

Oh, and next time don’t place glass bottles so precariously on a shelf!

The Day The World Will Never Forget #911

To my civilian friends who say “I will never forget” that day…
It was a different kind of memory for those of us who lived on military bases with our families working that day. While folding laundry, talking to another military wife friend on the phone who lived in Ottawa being complacent about the security of our lives we turned the tv on. We both went silent and had to say goodbye while seeing the horror because we knew what that meant for our serving friends and their families. All kinds of things were happening at once I’ll never forget and too long to explain here but my fellow military wives “will never forget”.


My husband was a Sergeant in the Canadian Forces and was working that day. When he was finally able to call it was just to say… “We are on lock down” he couldn’t talk any further and didn’t know when he would be able to. My son Connor had just started his second week of first grade at an off base school 10 minutes away but at that moment it seemed like the other side of the world!!


I’ll never forget that day… Keeping a brave face in front of our children and spouses while being terrified of the immediate change in our way of life. This is something the wives mastered. Keeping s*** together when the s*** was coming apart and too often doing it alone.

When you say “I will never forget”— Please while remembering those souls stolen from the world that day also remember the families of the victims, the soldiers in our countries fighting the evil in our world and their families too! And Spread a little more kindness each day!

LIFE LINE

JUST WANTED TO SHARE THIS. I COPIED THIS FROM THE FACEBOOK GROUP “LESSONS LEARNED IN LIFE” I WILL TAKE NO WRITING CREDITS – JUST SHARING! 💕


This stopped me in my tracks!

Every minute someone leaves this world behind.

We are all in “the line” without knowing it.

We never know how many people are before us.

We can not move to the back of the line.

We can not step out of the line.

We can not avoid the line.

So while we wait in line –

Make moments count.

Make priorities.

Make the time.

Make your gifts known.

Make a nobody feel like a somebody.

Make your voice heard.

Make the small things big.

Make someone smile.

Make the change.

Make love.

Make up.

Make peace.

Make sure to tell your people they are loved.

Make sure to have no regrets.

Make sure you are ready.

At Last! The Secret of My Sister Revealed!!

img_9034Did you ever have an imaginary friend? What if your friend didn’t turn out to be imaginary at all? What if she turned out to be real? Well, mine did and this is the story.

When I was younger I wanted a sister so bad! I played with or talked about my imaginary friend as being my little sister. I was told by the adults that it was my imagination and when talking about it I was often hushed or dismissed.

Then it happened. I was in my mid-twenties when my mother came to me and confirmed what I always thought was imaginary or false memories. I did indeed have a sister and she was given up for adoption.

The story starts in the late sixties. The facts in the beginning were told to me by my mother who is sadly passed on now. She didn’t have an easy life and this was a particular difficult time for her. She was a very young mother of two whose husband (my father) was a marine deployed to Vietnam. While my father was overseas he went missing. My mother comes from a large family and instead of staying alone waiting for his return in another country she decided to come back to Canada during this time. Now, to protect the privacy of other’s involved in this part of the story I will save the details of how she became pregnant. She did make the difficult choice to put the baby up for adoption. My sister was adopted by a local family and had a happy life.

After my mother told me her story I couldn’t help but always have her on my mind. I thought about her quite a lot-Did she look like me, what was she like, was she happy, did our paths ever cross? In my early thirties while pregnant with my second son the urge to find out took over my thoughts daily and access to the internet became a common thing in most people’s households. Without my mother’s knowledge I started looking on adoption boards and sites with any stories of people looking for their birth families that had information similar to mine. I did decide to make a search post on one of these boards with the limited information I had. One night my mother called me saying she saw my post. I quickly pointed out that obviously she was interested in finding her too. With her permission and armed with more information I contacted Family and Children Services.

I don’t know how they do things now but back then this is how things were done. I submitted my name and info to a social worker who would input it into a database.  If you do match up you exchanged letters with non-identifying information. When the social worker received a release of personal information then what followed is an exchange of emails and phone calls before a meeting can take place. The social worker was very blunt and made a point of letting me know it could take years if ever a match would happen. It was dependent on whether or not my sister had her information in the database as well. Well, three days later she called to say there was a match!

I was so excited to write my letter but more so to receive hers. In it, she mentioned she was an RN. I’m not the most patient person and since my sister-in-law is also a nurse I thought maybe something may ring a bell with her if I read the letter to her. It turns out my sister-in-law said she worked with someone who fit the information in her letter. I called the social worker to ask her if the name I had was hers and she said she couldn’t confirm it yet because she hadn’t received the release of info forms. I read between the lines and knew it was indeed my sister. A few moments later it was confirmed. My sister-in-law worked with my sister all along. It turned out there were several other “six degrees of separation” moments like this. Needless to say we basically disregarded the standard protocol and went straight to the reunion! This was the Spring of 2000.

At first it was a bit of a challenge for us to start to get to know each other. Since we lived far apart initially it was a long distance relationship for a while with some awkward visits. It’s taken a few years to get comfortable and grow our relationship. Although we were robbed of many memories sisters share of growing up together we are making them now! I look forward to the many more good times and memories we will have in the future! Real ones-not imaginary!!

 

 

 

Protecting Our Girls!

img_8284  Sexual Assault stories are once again the hot topic! Here are some of my thoughts!

This is more than just a women’s issue. Women don’t come forward with sexual assaults or harassments because it’s just easier not to. We risk being completely vilified, shamed, blamed and judged by the clothes we wear, the alcohol we drink, by a flirtatious conversation we had or a bad choice we made in the past.

What we can do besides shout or angrily express our thoughts on the injustice is use this as an opportunity to start open and ongoing communication with our children about boundaries. It’s not enough just to educate our daughters not to get themselves into situations alone, to watch their drinks when they’re out at a party or club and why society would blame them for wearing a certain outfit etc. We also have to teach our son’s. As a mother of two boys I know this is important. I also know they receive mixed messages from girls. I’ve read their texts and messages myself. Some are aggressive and read like a paragraph from an adult magazine. Regardless, my boys are responsible for their behavior and choices.

Therefore, it’s not just one conversation we need to have. It starts when they are really young. When they’re in the playground interacting with the girls on the swings or in the sandbox. It continues with how the boys behave at recess, in gym class and at lunchtime, in high school, online, at the mall etc. I like to think I’ve been somewhat successful in this matter. As my boys were growing up every opportunity I had and still have I discuss with them boundaries and consent and what that meant and means at certain times in their life. From not getting physical when you want the toy she has, not snapping her preteen bra strap and not taking advantage of a girl who may have had too much to drink just to name a few examples. I’ve gone over countless scenarios to ask what they would do and what they should and shouldn’t do. I’ve also made sure they are very aware of what consent is. Maybe, sometimes in great, uncomfortable detail. Sometimes they’re embarrassed. And sometimes they don’t want to hear it.

As a woman I feel the need for them to be taught respect for these boundaries in a loving and detailed, specific manner continually and it’s my responsibility to do so. They know they can ask me anything too. As a mother I’m also educating them and protecting them from any situation they may find themselves in so they make the right choice to treat another human being kindly and respectfully. And of course, so they don’t end up facing a wrath of a court room or worse, the wrath of their mother. We need to educate our sons because this is not just a woman’s issue.