I’m A Fraud! It’s Time To Come Clean!

That’s right! And I need to come clean! The life I want to live in requires authenticity. How can I thrive and grow if I’m not living my authentic self? How can I inspire if what I put out is not based on my reality? I’m going to start with one confession today and save more for a later post. I feel a sense of guilt each time I post a filtered, photo shopped picture of myself. It’s hypocritical, really.

 Today is about stopping the comparisons and pulling back the curtain on body image and aging. On the outside I may appear to others as confident, in control and put together because that is the mask I’ve worn. Truth is I’ve been afraid all my life of other people’s judgement. Hopefully, I can squelch one of the fears of being discovered as a fake and maybe help at least one person reading this who may have compared the image they see in the mirror to mine.

Here’s my confession:

  • If you’ve compared your hair to mine, I’ve been colouring the gray out for years.
  • If you’ve compared your face to mine, I’ve had chemical peels, derma-rolling, micro-needling, fillers and botox.
  • If you’ve compared your body to mine, besides various, relentless diet programs and an eating disorder I’ve had an abdominoplasty & liposuction.

What you’ve seen is my highlight reel. An edited representation of me. We need to unite together as women and accept ourselves as is! We shame each other because we’re too big, too small or not aging gracefully based on ridiculous standards.

Young impressionable girls are watching. It’s a struggle enough to be a teen never mind one who thinks they need perfect hair, eyebrows or a perfect proportioned body and older women who are “too big” or “too small” or ‘too wrinkly”! Please, while your hiding behind your keyboards and smart phones spewing negativity and hatred about someone’s appearance look at your daughters, granddaughters, sisters, wives and girlfriends and think about whether what you’re saying is something you want them to read before pressing send!!

Let’s be real. Let’s be authentic. Let’s support each other and be kind, be positive and be enough because we are all beautiful and imperfectly perfect!! Authentic

My 2 Cents- It’s Free!

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Today is Thursday! Over the last few years with the increase in social media interactions it has been dubbed as “Hashtag Throwback Thursday”! I don’t know about you but I’ve been sufficiently programmed enough now that as soon as my eyelids pop open I start to reminisce.

At one time I wished for one of those gadgets Tommy Lee Jones had in Men in Black that would erase certain moments with a click of a button. I guess this is one of those “With age comes wisdom” epiphanies because now of course I realize I wouldn’t want to delete those moments (okay, actually, after proof reading this -maybe a few). They’ve made me who I am now. My perspective and personality has been woven with all those experiences whether good or bad.

Some things that have been pointed out to me over the years from people is that they want to hear what I have to say. I’m constantly surprised when someone comes to me for advice and appreciates my feedback, support, opinion etc on anything they’re going through.  I enjoy observing and listening and if you know me, you’ve noticed I really enjoy sharing with you what I think too!! LOL!

Reminiscing on #TBT has reminded me that I’m a survivor. I’ve made mistakes. I’ve made bad choices. I’ve made awesome choices. I’ve had successes and failures. I’ve struggled with eating disorders and some mental health situations. I’ve gained and lost friends and family. I’ve had many jobs. I’ve helped open and close many businesses. I’ve had jobs where I’ve counselled people. I’ve answered telephone help lines. I graduated college with an Honours diploma in Human Relations. I’m a woman, mother, wife, daughter (I guess still even though both my parents died young), sister, aunt, niece, friend etc. All of these things I believe give me the experience and ability to give you my two cents!

Now that I’ve shared all of that, let me share my next endeavor. I’m thinking about an advice column which I can post/blog answering any questions about anything you’d like my opinion or advice about!! There are those who have already approached me for advice and I’ve given it. For the rest of you, feel free to email me at pawnyu@gmail.com. Your identity will remain anonymous!! I promise! Cross my heart! So, hit me up!!! And Happy Thursday!!